I got this from a chain-mail. It caught my interest since it was something quite close to my heart. Indeed a hug can send a thousand messages, and bitterly speaking, can be of a thousand daggers.
A hug… an embrace …. a gesture which carries a profound message from affable greeting to warm acceptance, obsequious welcome and compassionate healing, sympathy, and treachery like that one given by Brutus to his friend Julius or betrayal as in the case of the disciple to his master in the Garden of Gethsemane!
I read a story in Chicken Soup for the Soul about a man who resolved to give everyone a hug. His simple act invigorated him. Later on he inspired others to do the same.
During my first year of teaching, I met a girl who enjoyed bullying others. No wonder she was the most unwanted person in the campus. One afternoon, I found time to talk to her. She was obstinate at first; trying to avoid my questions until finally she told me her story. And I was taken aback because never in my imagination had it occurred to me that this young girl was abused by her own dad! Shaky was she after she narrated her horrific experience so I held her close in my arms. Suddenly she sobbed on my shoulder and after a while I felt her relax a bit. And I released her. There was a smile in her eyes when she said, “Thank you, Miss for that hug. You helped me a lot!”
After a horrifying five hour drive en route to Bicol via ambulance (which usually takes 10 hours) with the precious bags of platelets for my sister, I found myself face-to-face with death when I finally saw her lying inside the Intensive Care Unit with the red spots all over her body and bloodstains on her white robe! I embraced her hard and we cried together. After awhile, we looked at each other and laughed. The hug somehow relieved us both from the anguish of despair!
I expressed my laudatory remarks to those under my tutelage with a firm embrace. And many times, I was hugged back with the same intensity, an acknowledgement perhaps for my contribution to them, a sign of gratitude. And just recently I gave one particular embrace to a person I considered one of my finest breed. Yes, I welcomed her in my arms after she received her graduation diploma. I hugged her with a remorseful feeling that with her, I failed as a mentor.
But as God was my witnessed, I did all that it takes TO GUIDE HER… TO TEACH HER… TO TAP HER LEADERSHIP POTENTIAL. I appointed her the Editor-in-Chief of the school publication with the hope that she could do it but I was wrong! I thought she could be like Jonathan though an ordinary gull tried the falcon’s flight! I dared her…made her believe that she had the power to create… I taught her to break the mediocrity of living just as I did to all the students under my care and to transcend the boundary of mortality and achieve greater things but she slumped back and thrived in hatred instead when the rest escalated so tremendously! I made her life conspicuously miserable because of one ideal dream. And so despite the ovation that was given to me in recognition maybe for my invaluable contribution to the batch, this girl hugged me for a reason other than respect and gratitude. And I am hurt!